You Don’t Always Have to Be Happy

Ridding myself of ALL negativity,anger, fear, and sadness is not my goal. Getting over this is not something I need to do.

Don’t get me wrong, I love to be positive, happy, and  to feel good, the key is I dont NEED to.
Being angry all of the time can make you sick; some say such negativity is toxic! I don’t completely agree with this belief. I say that anger, fear, and sadness is as much a part of my human experience as LOVE is. Avoidance of these emotions is not necessary.
That kick in the stomach, pain in my heart, or that headache actually comes from the belief that these “negative” emotions are somehow wrong, bad, or a state of being I need to get myself out of.
Believing I should be over this is the hard part!
Fighting the fact that I am here in the first place, and thinking I need to be over there….feeling happy, becomes my struggle!

Positive thinking can make me sick? Well in a way it can…when positivity becomes a need.
So I am releasing the idea that happiness and being positive is a permanent state I must seek, and I am being more gentle with myself when I am in one of those “negative” places.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the belief that I am or YOU are doing something wrong or bad if we are not happy. Igniting that internal judgmental dialogue, ” I’m so stupid!” “Here we go again!” flows easily, even automatically.

Accepting what IS; I have no goal to get over anything! I remind myself that what I feel has to do with THIS moment. Change can come in the next moment.
I become more FREE in each moment, you do too.  Running or hiding from any emotion YOU or I feel is not necessary, but rather we can embrace and shift it if we so CHOOSE.
Life is my party…and I can cry if I want to. Freeing isn’t it?


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  1. Well said. I often feel more overwhelmed when I attempt to keep positive. I've found that I do some of my best writing when I'm angry.

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  2. I love this! Can you guest blog this exact post on my blog? I have a chronic illness and I think it would be helpful to my readers.

    Thanks!

    http://www.confessionscyster.blogspot.com

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  3. Stacey, I'm sure she'd be happy to let you share it on your blog. Just go to her blog via the link at the top of the post to get in touch with her.

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