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Must-Haves from Rivet Home Collection

I don't think I could ever fully commit to specific types of decor like boho-chic, modern, or industrial. But throw in a few mid-century mod or transitional pieces, and you can seamlessly incorporate each of these styles in one space. There are so many pieces in the new RIVET home collection, exclusively on Amazon, that fit the look. You can also glam up the look by adding in metallics or marble instead of wood, which the RIVET collection has plenty of as well! See all of my top picks below, and let me know which ones are your favorite! Pictured above: Black on White Blueprint of 1899 Typewriter

one: Black on White Blueprint of 1899 Typewriter
two: Rivet Bristol Natural Edge Black Metal Side Table, Walnut
three: Rivet Modern Metal Floral Pattern Round Mirror
four: Rivet Mudcloth-Inspired Pillow
five: Rivet Black Metal Tripod Table Lamp
six: Rivet Franklin Shelf and USB Charging Station Table Lamp
seven: Set of 4 Silver Geodes Prints in Silver Frames
eight: Rivet Martin Modern Storage Benc…

Do You Say Yes When You Should Say NO?

by Patty Sherry, 3/13/2012

"It’s better to give than it is to receive.” This belief can run deep in many of us. Are givers nicer, more caring, more accepted people?? This certainly is the perception if you compare how we as a society view the “takers” of this world.

Takers are uncaring and selfish...

Therefore many of us, (especially females) are givers. We are nurturers by nature, so we give...and give. Giving is a way we show love. We give at work, to our children, and we give to our significant others.

I’m not here to say that giving is a bad thing or that anyone should stop doing it. I am a giver! I’m not here to talk about the kind of giving that brings you pure joy. If joy is part of the equation, there is no problem right?

The “giving” I am here to talk about is the feeling you have when you are on empty. It’s about the kind of giving and giving you do, despite the fact that your own needs are not being met. It’s the giving you do with resentment and attachments. It’s the giving you do out of guilt or fear. I’m here to talk about those times you say, “Yes.” when you really mean “No!”

This post goes out to those of you whose obligations are piling up, and you’re feeling overwhelmed and in sacrifice. This post goes out to those of you who are unhappy with the lack of “balance” and satisfaction in your relationships.

Ask yourself these questions... “Am I working late at work yet another night because I need to prove myself or I am afraid that people will judge me a slacker?” “Am I taking on yet another cookie baking, fund raiser, or school function because I fear being judged badly by freinds and family if I don’t? “Do I really accept what I feel I want and deserve from my partner, or do I constantly compromise?”

I’ve had to take some honest assesments about “giving” in my own life. I realized that “receiving” was uncomfortable for me, and in a way I had attached a certain weakness to it. I did not like being dependent on anyone. I’ve been opening up my willingness to “receive” now. I attach “giving” as a way I show my love. So in my love relationships I give my attention, my encouragement, and my respect, to the other. Sometimes however, my giving was lopsided. I wasn’t receiving many of these things in return; things I wanted for myself. I’ve often equated this behaviour with a willingness to accept crumbs when you are hungry for a loaf of bread.

Why the hell would I do this, accept less than I feel I want or deserve? Fear is my obvious answer. So I took a good look at what it was I was afraid of in life.... Fear of being alone. Accepting this fear exists and saying it out loud has made all the difference for me. I’m still a giver, but I am an equal receiver and I like it!

I now see that facing and accepting ANY fear you have can make a difference. Whether you are afraid of NOT having that relationship, being thought a slacker at work, or you are afraid of being judged as not a good parent. We teach people how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. It is not THEIR fault. If my significant partner expects me to be there without feeling the need to be there for me in the same ways, it is me who has taught them this. If work expects me to work through lunch, dinner, and through weekends without care for my own physical and emotional needs, it is me who has not drawn that line.

If I continually offer my help with that next fundraiser despite my own needs for rest and relaxation, it is me who teaches people that I will. It is ME who must be willing to give to myself before I can expect others to do so. It has been so freeing for me to see life in this way. Making changes in myself is much easier than blaming others and waiting for them to change.
We all know waiting for others to change so that we can be happy....can be a long, long...wait.

Patty Sherry is the founder of Share Your Love Story and is a Wellness and Love contributor at The Blog Entourage. You can find more inspiration from Patty on her blog Share Your Love Story.


  1. I'm an odd female. I have absolutely no problem saying no to anything or anyone. I hate shopping, can't cook, am a minimalist when it comes to decorating, and never understood this weird passion

  2. I'm pretty bad about saying no whenever I'm already spread too thin, but I've been working on it lately and am getting better!

  3. I am soo bad at saying no. I never do it and I am always spread to thin... I say no to going out though with ppl, I am a HUGE homebody..

  4. I do have a problem with saying no.

  5. What a great post! I know I need to hear this every so often.


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