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Christmas Tour: Decoratively Speaking Events

I've got a treat for you guys today! It's a Christmas tour that is definitely a feast for the eyes. When I started my holiday page on Instagram this season, I happened upon quite a few interior design pages I wasn't yet following with my KCL Instagram. One of which caught my eye with beautiful event design. As we began to near the Christmas season, I noticed this design page posting more and more Christmas decor at various businesses. Talk about a dream job...being able to decorate so many different spaces for the holidays, with many different themes and colors!

As you can imagine, the designer at Decoratively Speaking Events is bound to have beautiful Christmas decor at home as well. From the fun vintage welcome, to the beautiful formal dining room, to the plaid Mackenzie-Childs Breakfast Room; you are sure to find some festive holiday inspo. Grab a cup of coffee (or hot cocoa) and enjoy!



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Interview with Blogger Nick Feitel of Bethenny Ever After


photo by theblogentourage.com via Kim Trower
 
As I nervously waited for Nick Feitel, the awkward and seemingly insecure blogger from Bravo's hit show Bethenny Ever After, the biggest question in my mind was would he be the same in person as he is on the show? Next to Bethenny, he comes off as quiet and almost timid, so I was afraid that it would be a challenge to get him to talk. On the contrary, it was hard to get from one question to the next...not that I minded one little bit.

"I'm very sorry," he must've said a million times as he walked up to me and waited for his coffee and piece of cake at a Starbuck's in New York City. We had a simple mix-up of which day the interview was. I had it down for Tuesday, while Nick thought it was Friday. I was set to leave New York on Thursday, so he graciously hurried over to meet me.

I immediately recognized him. Just like on the show; he was wearing sneakers, jeans and a casual T-shirt. His poofy red hair (which unfortunately gave him the nickname Napolean Dynamite) was also intact. If you saw him on the previous seasons of Bethenny, you also know that he was constantly saying "sorry" and "that's very kind of you, thank you very much". His manners were just as impeccable in person. In addition to apologizing over and over for mixing up the interview time, he insisted on buying my coffee. However, the one thing I'd have to say was not true to his persona on Bethenny is that in person he is not the insecure and helpless (I'm just going to come right out and say it) the nerd he portrays. Much like a lot of New Yorkers, he is a cool individual who seems outgoing, capable and sure of himself. Though he has his own self-worth issues just like the rest of us. Upon reading his personal blog Feitelogram, it's clear that like most of us, he is searching for the balance between self-improvement and self acceptance. As we sat down for the interview, it quickly became clear that I wouldn't be dealing with the same uncomfortable silences he provides on camera. Turns out those are more a product of his knowledge of "comedic timing".

Christina: How did you get an interview as Bethenny’s assistant?

Nick: I was an intern on the Colbert Report and was on the Late Show with Davis Letterman on a taped segment. The David Letterman show was looking for unemployed college graduates and I got an email about that from my NYU film school, so I was like, “sure, I’ll go on the David Letterman show as an unemployed graduate”. So I sent in a resume and a picture and they interviewed me. It was supposed to be a bit about the recession and how depressing being unemployed and an out of work college graduate. It was supposed to be a few people, but I was the only one with a comedy background so they interviewed me for pretty much the entire segment. One of the jobs that I applied for was to be a reality assistant, but they didn’t give any details about who it was for or what show.

Christina: Did you know who Bethenny was?

Nick: No, I had never heard of her. 
Even though I didn’t get the job, they had communicated to me that they liked me. I lived about 5 blocks away from Bethenny, so she and Jason saw me on the street and talked to me between seasons…she was like “you did really well on the show, you came off really well”.

Christina: You randomly ran into her?

Nick: Yeah, they saw me. They just are really nice people, and they came up to me and asked me where they should go eat...she said that nice thing about me from season 1 and it was communicated to me that they had recognized me and that I was welcome back. It was amazing how many people recognized me from that 1 episode.


Christina: How did the food blog come about and how did that become your “thing” on the show?

Nick: I was just walking around NYC and I'm a film student, so when I saw a place on the sidewalk where they were filming something, I went over so see what it was and it was Bethenny. I recognized the crew, and they remembered me because they had really liked me and had asked me lots of things about where to eat.

Christina: So that was your in?

Nick: It wasn’t even an in. I wasn’t trying to get back on,
I was just saying hi.

I didn’t have any ambition of being on the show again, it literally was just that I was near the set and thought that I would say hi to some people and see if they would remember me. 

And when I went to say hi, they were like “oh…..” and they had this name for me, like a nickname, and it was Napoleon Dynamite…so then they were like “do you want to walk on set?” and I was like “are you serious? You guys are filming right there”, and they said to just go walk on set. I literally just went up and started talking to her. She asked me what I [was doing at the time], and I was like “well, I am a food writer”.  She said “ I bet you are a good food writer. You should do a food blog for me”. She ended up having me come over to her house and that was another episode, and then we went to the fair.



The only part of this that isn’t on TV is that there were 2 month gaps between all of this, and I really didn’t know what I was doing or what my part in this would be. They probably didn’t know what the story was going to be either. The story line unfolds there, it’s literally just her life, and they figure out a way to turn it into something.

You know, even before any of this Bethenny stuff happened, I used to hang out at a restaurant...it’s like this sort of small restaurant over on Greenwich Avenue, and the thing about that restaurant was that this woman was this fantastic pastry chef who loved Indian food, and whose husband was Dominican. So she wanted to create a restaurant that was part of her self-expression. It had her love of Indian food and her love of her husband’s Dominican culture and cooking. [As] a film student or an actor or an artist, you feel a kinship for trying to do something that is a means of self-expression. That is sort of why I got into this great love of food, because you can feel [that] these people are struggling to do something that they love and something that is uniquely them.

Christina:  When did you [first start having this great love for food]?

Nick: When I was a teen, about 13.  [In New York City], when you are a teen, you get a metro card and it lets you go wherever you want. Parents will get you a metro card and tell you to be home by 6 or 7.  From then I started exploring places. I started with the basic French fries and fried chicken...but I started changing and appreciating more food.


Christina: Did you love writing right away when you started?


Nick: I LOVE writing. That has always been a constant in my life. I have loved writing since I was 10 or even younger than that. My mother is a writer, and you go from crazy thought to crazy thought. 

I would measure my self-worth by how many people came to my blog every day…I would get so depressed. But I don’t’ even know these people! 

Christina: Do you want to write in the entertainment field?

Nick: I don’t know what I want to do. I’m 23. The only thing that I have learned along the way is that there are 1000 things that I want to do… I went to film school…the whole thing is that you change and whatever it is that you think you want to do, it’s probably not what you want to do. There are people who hold onto their dreams forever. I’m not saying that I am done with film making, or done with any of that stuff. The only thing I know is that I am feeling my way around and sort of seeing which way things take me. The reality show stuff was never something that I sought out.

When my friends joke with me that I am a celebrity, really, I’m not. I’m not one of those people who takes it seriously. I did an improv show the other day right around the corner and it was really good. I am really proud of it, but it was like a class show and it’s hard to get people to show up.


Christina: Are you going to be on Bethenny again?

Nick: I have no idea! I will just leave it at that.

[Bethenny] is the commander of her own situation and her own director of everything she does.

She has her own life, and she will decide and if I can be a part of whatever she is doing. I would be happy to because I think she is a really cool person. And I mean that honestly.

Christina: Have you had any weird fan experiences?

Nick: Yes, 1 weird fan experience… I should preface that by saying that I have good fan experiences now. I meet people on the subway and like this interview right now, those are good. There is a fried chicken place that I love around here, Hill Country Chicken, and somebody recognized me from the show and said “I bet I know as much about food as you do”. So I have had good experiences and bad experiences as well. I try not to be arrogant or anything, but if somebody asks, I will be like “yeah, that was me”. The most common thing I get is that people ask me if Bethenny is as nice in person as she appears on the show. I tell them “yes, she is the same, that really is her”. The only bad fan experience that I have has was when I was walking home from the east village one day and some woman on the street was drunk and started walking with me. I wasn’t attracted to her to begin with and she was trying to hang on me.
I just got a few new responses on my last twitter post and some girl just said that I am adorable.

Christina: Is it frustrating that you are getting so much attention from females, but it’s not people who are potential dates?

Nick: Yes, It’s a bit frustrating. This girl is pretty cute, but you never know when it’s on twitter. I actually tried a couple of times to date some of these people, but it’s always like… you aren’t sure. A couple of girls that I have talked to were from other places… California and Texas, so it’s not like I’m going to be pursuing a relationship, or be flying to see them. But one girl that I might go on a date with is from Brooklyn. The problem that I have with Twitter is that there is no way to know if any of this stuff is real...it probably isn’t.

Christina: so this whole thing hasn’t really changed your life much?

Nick: No, and I am glad. I still have the same friends and they are a good group of friends.


Since season 2, Nick has written more food blogs for Bethenny.com and appears in several new episodes of Bethenny Ever After season 3, currenty showing on BRAVO Monday nights at 10/9 C. During his latest appearance this season he took Bethenny on a falafel crawl, and she dragged him into a salon to get his eyebrows threaded.



During the interview, Nick was kind enough to suggest a restaurant for me and my friend Kim. You can read about it in my review of Heartland Brewery.

Tune into Bethenny tomorrow night to see him on the show again, and keep up with his food blog Nick's Culinary Crawl on Bethenny.com.
 

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  1. Wow, how fun was that! He looks like such a casual fun guy. Great interview.

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  2. Terrific interview, Christina! I haven't heard of the show, but I don't think it airs in Canada.

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  3. It's fun to see the final thing ;) That was a fun day and very interesting experience. Good job.

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  4. Thanks, Kim! It was so great to take that trip with you!:)

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