Krisztina's Blog: How to Handle Holiday Stress
Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook can be fun ways to connect over the holidays; but social media can also be a huge source of jealousy, resentment, and unhealthy competition. I often have to remind friends and family that the only reason I have time for my obsessively Martha Stewart ways is because it's kind of my job now. But I totally get that it's not the case for most of you ladies juggling a career and little munchkins. My job is to inspire but by no means show you what you need to do or should do to have the perfect holiday. Even as I draw inspiration from other lifestyle sites, I have to pick and choose what I'll have time for. As much as I get done sometimes, I still have a looong list in my mind of what I wish I could've gotten done. I've got two little munchkins of my own to juggle.
I get a lot of compliments on my holiday projects and recipes, though I also get negative ones. Perhaps the most insulting comment I've received wasn't putting down my work. It was rather a compliment followed up with, "I wouldn't possibly have time for that!" Every time I hear that, I want to say, "Well I don't either! I had to consume large quantities or coffee and lose a ton of sleep to get it done." I feel like it's the go-to defense mothers use when they feel insecure that they aren't doing as much as they should in the home. I've been guitly of it myself. If I put emphasis on how busy I am, I can justify all the things I wish I'd done but didn't have the time or energy to do. But it's a slippery slope. Before you know it, you're "tired and busy" all the time, and you're not truly enjoying life anymore. You become one of those over-stressed moms saying things like, "I can't wait until the busy holidays are over." And here's the thing, if you're doing your personal best, then that is the best you can do! Give yourself some credit for that. And you know who gets to decide what your personal best is? You!
Above all, you need to enjoy the holidays, and you're not going to enjoy them if you're frustrated, overloaded, or too busy comparing yourself to others. I can go on Pinterest during the holidays and simply enjoy looking at all of the beauitful projects and recipes whether or not I have time to do any of them. If you find that green-eyed monster creeping up everytime you see a perfectly crafted DIY ornament or a delicious homemade dessert, it's time for an attitude check! Over Halloween, one of my friends posted on Facebook how she totally slacked off this year with Halloween, but she's going to have fun anyway! I though one, how bad is it that as mothers we make ourselves feel bad if we don't live up to a certain standard. I also thought what a great carefree attitude she has, and I'm sure she did have a blast!
It really boils down to positive thinking. We all have those lists in our minds of things we want to accomplish, whether it be in life or for the holidays or our daily lists. We have to learn to focus on the things we have accomplished and feel good about those things. I found that the more I felt good about what I was doing, the less jealous I felt about what other people were doing. Now whenever I see success in other people, I feel nothing but happy for them. And let me say, that is a joyful way to spend the holidays!