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How to Improve Your Personal Style

An individual’s personal style is something that can set them apart and make them stand out in a room full of people. Even if you aren’t that into fashion, you can still develop a style that people can identify you by. Perhaps you’re wondering how you can improve your style and make it more interesting, or you’re at a point in your life that you’re hungry for change. Whatever the case, you can improve your style at any time you want to, just be open to trying something new. Here are practical ways that you can improve your personal style nevertheless.

Know What Look You’re Going For

Before you can actually improve your personal style, you need to know what exactly you’re looking to change it to. Identify what your personal style is presently and what about it is you want to improve. It could be that you wear too much black and feel like your style is too gothic and want to introduce new and vibrant colors to your wardrobe. Knowing where you want to go will give you an idea of how to g…

When Did Pleasing Your Man Become a Bad Thing?

 

Now get your mind out of the gutter, because I'm not talking about that kind of pleasing, however what I'm about to say could and should be applied to that part of a relationship as well. Although the kind of pleasing I'm talking about also involves food, fashion, makeup, and any other ways in which we ladies can appeal to men. Now hang on, don't get all burn-your-bras on me. I do mention on my blog quite often how I think it's important to figure out what makes you happy, what makes you feel beautiful, and to not do things just because you think it's what will attract a man. Besides, you want to attract a man who likes you for you, right?

But let's say you're already in a relationship or kind of sort of dating someone. Why wouldn't you want to do things you know he likes? I spend time (probably way too much) on Facebook threads to research what people really think about topics I'm thinking about covering on my blog. Today I came across some comments that really rubbed me the wrong way. It was on a light-hearted post about men's opinions of certain fashion trends. There were so many angry comments, which I totally expected, because I've seen this reaction so many times. Even on a simple style guide for date night, readers make comments like "If he didn't pay for my outfit, he has no input on what I'm wearing!" I am no traditionalist by any means, but I think this way of thinking has gone way too far.

In the movement for female empowerment, we've become way too defensive. In trying so hard to make sure we get what we deserve, we've turned men into the enemy. 

I knew a woman several years back who complained on several occasions that her husband wanted her to learn how to make a particular dessert that his mother made. She said it was complicated, and she didn't want to make it. End of story. From what I understood, he was in no way rude or demanding about it, so I was taken aback by her attitude. Maybe it's the people pleaser or over achiever in me, but I like to know exactly what people like so I can do a good job. And if I'm with someone who cares about me and makes me happy, you can bet I'm going to wear his favorite color, cook his favorite dishes, and do any number of things if I know they are things he particularly likes.

Pleasing a man isn't a bad thing. And refusing to do something just because you know it's what someone else wants is not empowering. It's rebellious, it's selfish, and it's just plain unloving.

This bad attitude towards men often carries over into sex advice. I can't tell you how many angry-reader comments I've seen like "Why should I look sexy for him? It's my body!" Um, perhaps because men are visual, and the female body is sexy. It's important to figure out what makes you feel sexy of course, but the way I see it is if you are with someone completely, your body is a gift to them. Shouldn't they be able to enjoy it? Of course that should only include ways in which both people feel comfortable.

In relationships it largely depends on the other person's attitude as well as your own. If your partner isn't demanding and genuinely cares about how you feel, it's so much easier to be generous. But everyone is human, and no one can give 100% all of the time. You have to have some wiggle room on both sides. The moment you start keeping score over what someone does or doesn't deserve from you, you go straight from unconditional love and selfless love to a relationship in which everyone is looking out for themselves. I talk a lot about loving yourself and making yourself happy, but that is not to be altogether replaced by the kind of love in which you really can depend on someone else to meet your needs and bring some extra happiness to your life. If you find that, for goodness sake, put on something sexy and cook a delicious dinner! Or do whatever it is you know your partner will appreciate. Image via.

I'd love to hear what you think ( unless it's angry and bitter of course ). Leave me a comment below!

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  2. Not sure if we read the same article, but I read one from Her Campus this week about men's opinions on high-top shorts. the backlash was ridiculous! I can't understand the hostility around women playing active roles in their relationships. both partners are supposed to work together to make each other happy (cue gasps)! this is a great post.

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    1. Thank you! So so true. It has to be about both sides taking an active roll. Thanks for stopping by!:)

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