Don't Forget to Enjoy Your Summer
I was on one of my regular walks with my best friend here in San Antonio when she reminded me of something I really needed to hear. The conversation shifted, as it often does, to our recent efforts to get more healthy and to be honest, my vain efforts to look better. I'm typically more upbeat about it and have a good attitude towards myself even if I take a cheat day too far or still don't look quite how I'd hoped by this time, but lately I've been too hard on myself.
I confided in her how frustrated I've been that my cheat days have gone back to cheat weekends in which I go way overboard with unhealthy eating. I also mentioned how last weekend before going out, I changed my shirt a million times, because I felt insecure in all of my strappy summer tops. What was most frustrating to me is that I haven't behaved or felt that way in years. That resurfacing of insecurities about my body made me feel...well, like an idiot!
She stopped my and said, "Wait, can I please tell you that you look good?"
I said, "Yes!! Because I feel like I'm going crazy. I feel like it's all in my head. I look at my arms or my legs in the mirror and think, oh they are skinnier. But then I see myself in a picture or I start trying on cute clothes, and I feel like I look huge."
"No, it's all in your head," she said.
I tried to figure out why I was suddenly reverting back to these old feelings and letting them control my thoughts. As we passed the neighborhood pool, I said, "You know, I think it's swimsuit season. The part I like least about my body is my thighs, and suddenly I'm worried about shorts and swimsuits."
My friend said that she recently shut off all Facebook notifications from fitness pages. I said, "I know, it's overwhelming. I have to keep up with all of those for research, but when they constantly post about '10 Moves for Your Inner Thighs' and 'Ways to Lift Your Booty', it's hard not to start focusing on my individual body parts.
What she said at the end of the conversation really struck a cord with me. She spoke about a summer in which she didn't want to wear certain things because of her body and how it ruined her summer. "Don't let it ruin your summer." she said.
"Don't let it ruin your summer."
And that is what I want to pass along to you ladies today. I don't want you to leave me comments of "oh but you look great." I want you to take this advice for yourself and remember to enjoy your summer. It really doesn't matter what you look like in shorts. I can try and tell myself that outer beauty doesn't matter, but as a woman, I want to feel pretty. That's how we're designed. But I'm going to focus on the things I do like about myself, and I challenge you to do the same thing. Every time that nagging insecure voice pops into my head, I'm going to focus on the parts I do like about myself. Then I'm going to forget about it! Leave it behind, go about my day, and enjoy the fun times that summer has to offer.
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