Our ceremony was emotional for both of us, as I knew it would be. We have both experienced some painful relationships in the past, and have helped each other to heal. Though I can't say that I went into dating with the intention of getting married again. I knew that was what I ultimately wanted, but I just wasn't sure I could find what I wanted or what I needed. Ken was at a point where he felt the same way. But the more time we spent together however, it was very apparent that we were both very much what the other person needed and wanted. There is a great peace and joy in starting a life with someone like that.
A few weeks before the wedding, the photographer sent a questionnaire, and in that we were asked to describe our relationship in a few words. Words like caring, loving, etc came to mind; but especially two words in particular - passionate and inspiring. We hope that our love and the way we treat each other can inspire the same for others. And the passion...well, the photographer had to tell us to stop kissing quite a few times during pictures ha.
Ken and I decided to do a first-look shoot early in the afternoon, because well, we like each other! Why wait until the ceremony to see each other? We did not spend the day before doing bachelor and bachelorette parties, we did not sleep separately the night before, and we had no intentions of spending our wedding day apart...of course aside from girly getting-ready time. I was a bit nervous, but I think you can tell from the photo that he liked what he saw.:)
A big thank you to my best friends Jess and Kim for helping the day go so smoothly and just for being there. As we reminisced during pictures, I was reminded that Jess was actually present when I had my first daughter over ten years ago, and Kim was there to babysit after I had my second daughter. Thank you so much for your friendship, ladies!:)
We went with our own vows, and as expected, I got choked up. He began first, and honestly I had to have him show them to me later, because I was so nervous and trying so hard to keep it together that I wasn't fully paying attention to every word. In fact at one point I was thinking of a silly movie we had watched the night before, just so I could somewhat keep my composure. When it came time for me to say my vows, I quickly gave up trying to stop crying and just spoke the vows through my tears.
We cemented our vows and the exchanging of rings with unity sand, an idea I'm so glad Ken suggested. As we walked over to the table displaying our unity sand, the minister said:
Ken and Krisztina, today you are making a commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other. Your relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these individual containers of sand; one, representing you, Ken and all that you are, and the other representing you, Krisztina, and all that you are.
Each one holds its own beauty, strength, and character, when blended together represent something even more beautiful, and a love that cannot be divided.
As you each hold your sand the two different colors represent you and your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As you now combine the two, you and your lives also join together as one.
The life that each of you live and the individuals that you are will hereafter be eternally united. Just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, neither shall you.
I don't envy the young one bit...with their blank slates and leaps of faith. Ken and I got to go into this will absolute certainty, with peace, and we got to celebrate it as a family with our children. We value and celebrate what we have found in each other and all that we have ahead of us. I do, my love, and I am so happy to be your wife.
Photography by Ashley Sutherland Photography / Venue: Dresser Mansion / Dresses: David's Bridal and Dreamdress / Linens: Party Perfect Rental / Cake: Merritt's Bakery / Invitation Suite: Wedding Paper Divas